Friday, 3 March 2017

PC brigade declare the end of mankind: University bans lecturers from using series of phrases that could be deemed sexist

A step too far perhaps?
An article in The Mail this morning informs us that Lecturers have been banned from using the
phrases ‘mankind’ and ‘man-made’ as part of a university’s clampdown on ‘gendered language’.

Cardiff Metropolitan University says the ‘politically correct’ words should be used to ‘promote
an atmosphere in which all students and staff feel valued’.

The rules are laid out in the institution’s Equal Opportunities Policy, which warns
contraventions could result in disciplinary action.

It says ‘inclusive language’ must be used throughout all academic programmes to comply with the
Equality Act as gendered words could be considered discriminatory.
Other rules include using ‘forename’ instead of ‘Christian name’ to avoid offending people of a
diverse range of faiths.

And staff should avoid using the phrase ‘wheelchair bound’ because it is ‘patronising and
pitying’, while ‘wheelchair user’ is ‘empowering’.

The document states: ‘Should individuals consider that in the course of interaction with
students or staff that this code has not been adhered to and that further action is required,
there are two courses of action.
‘For students please refer to the Bullying and Harassment Policy. For staff members the
Disciplinary procedure applies, as it does in the event of students talking inappropriately to
staff.’

It says that ‘politically correct terminology can change’ but lists a range of examples of words
and phrases which staff should avoid.
These also include ‘best man for the job’, ‘forefathers’, ‘housewife’, ‘man in the street’,
‘manpower’ and ‘right-hand man’.

Even terms such as ‘headmistress’ and ‘headmaster’ as well as Mrs and Miss are considered
offensive, according to the guide.
It also says staff should avoid ‘falling into the trap of making assumptions based on your own
cultural background.’

And it advises alternating the order of the genders when talking about women and men, he or she,
mother and father so that neither are given undue importance.
It adds: ‘If the gender of the person is unknown, don’t make an assumption, but use “he or she”
or, where appropriate, use the plural “they”.

‘Sexuality can be a minefield too, according to the policy, which advises against the terms
‘homosexual’ and ‘heterosexual’ because they are ‘laden with the values of a previous time’.
The new words to use are ‘same-sex’ and ‘other-sex’ relationships, the documents advises.

For disability, ‘the disabled’ is advised against and instead staff should refer to ‘people with
disability’.

I think I may be lost for words!

To read the full article click here

Tuesday, 21 February 2017

Be careful what you wish for......

A recent article by Patrick Foster of The Telegraph informs us that the Wife of a millionaire
farmer may have to live next door to him for three years and pay a six-figure legal bill before
they can split.

A woman whose attempts to divorce her multi-millionaire mushroom farmer husband were blocked by a judge has been left with a £100,000 legal bill.

Tini Owens, 66, who is living in a farmhouse only yards from her estranged husband’s Cotswold
home, must wait another three years before she is able to divorce Hugh Owens, 78, after a judge
turned down her petition to end their “intensely unhappy” marriage last year.

It is understood that she was told to pay £20,000 towards her husband’s costs, and faced legal
fees of her own of around £80,000.

Mrs Owens, who has been married for 39 years, this week asked the Court of Appeal to overturn
the “extraordinarily unusual” ruling, claiming that it constituted an “unreasonable and
disproportionate restriction” of her human rights.

Three appeal judges - led by Sir James Munby, the most senior family court judge in England
and Wales - analysed the case at a hearing in London on Tuesday.

They are expected to publish a ruling soon.

Click here for more information

Sunday, 29 January 2017

Women share the shocking reasons why they're addicted to cheating on their husbands as it emerges only HALF regret having an affair


An article by STEPHANIE LINNING FOR MAILONLINE today, informs us
 - Wives and girlfriends shared the reasons why they are addicted to cheating
 - One said she was afraid of being alone while others loved male attention
 - Comes as a poll reveals that only half of women regret having an affair

Women have shared the reasons why they are addicted to cheating on their partners.
Writing on anonymous confessions website Whisper, wives and girlfriends said the fear of being
alone, the need for attention and wanting more sex drove them to being unfaithful.
Others could not let go of previous relationships. One woman said: 'I can't stop cheating on my
boyfriends with my ex because I am still in love with him.
It comes as a new survey by Mirror Survation revealed that nearly half of women who have had an
affair did not regret their decision.

But the poll of 1,000 people did reveal their were repercussions to cheating, with more than 30
per cent of women saying it led to the end of their marriage or relationship.
A further 10 per cent said they were socially excluded by friends.  
Relationship expert Dr Pam Spurr told the newspaper middle-aged women might consider cheating
because 'the daily grind wears things away'.
Read More

Thursday, 15 December 2016

Ex-husbands who don't pay up after divorce could face lose their driving licenses or passports



  • The only penalty a wife can ask for now is for husband to get prison sentence
  • Proposals mean husbands who don't pay could be banned from driving for a year
  • It was also recommended that judges have powers to confiscate passports
  • Justice Secretary Liz Truss will decide if these should form the basis of new laws


Reports in The Mail today, inform us that divorced men who try to wriggle out of paying off their ex-wives could face a driving ban.
Law reformers yesterday called for fresh sanctions against those who avoid paying divorce 
settlements ordered by the courts.
Among the penalties should be 12-month driving bans and the confiscation of passports, 
the Law Commission said.
The plan for husbands, and some wives, follows complaints that 'family financial orders' imposed 
in a divorce are frequently ignored, and that those who fail to pay cannot easily be punished.
At present the only penalty a wife can ask for if her former husband fails to pay up is a prison
sentence, but judges need a criminal standard of proof before they will send an unco-operative 
divorcee to jail, so the punishment is rarely enforced.

The Commission's recommendations mean a husband who has not paid could be disqualified from 
driving for a year. A court would return his licence if he handed over the money.
However, the report said, it would be self-defeating to impose a driving ban on someone who 
needed to drive to earn a living, because they would lose the ability to make the money to pay 
their former spouse.
So, it also recommended that judges should have powers to confiscate passports. Only UK 
passports should be taken, the report said, and they should be given back when the erring spouse 
pays up.

Saturday, 5 November 2016

Brad Pitt files for joint custody of six children he shares with Angelina Jolie

It would seem that money doesn't buy you happiness, as reported in the Daily Mail this morning.

Pitt filed documents in a Los Angeles court on Friday afternoon
Has applied for both legal and physical custody of the children
It was the actor's first response to Jolie's September divorce filing
Jolie wants sole custody of the six children, who range in age from 8 to 15

Documents obtained by DailyMail.com show 52-year-old Pitt has asked for joint physical and legal custody of the six children he shares with Angelina Jolie.
It is the first time Pitt has sent in legal papers after his wife of two years asked for a divorce in September.
Jolie has applied for sole custody of the kids, meaning the legal battle between the two is heating up.
Neither have mentioned in their court filings whether they are seeking spousal or child support

Pitt states on the document that he is ending his marriage with Jolie over 'irreconcilable differences'.
He also lists the same separation date, September 15.
He then mentions his children - Maddox, 15, Pax, 12, Zahara, 11, Shiloh, 10, and eight-year-old twins Knox, and Vivienne - and puts down that he is seeking joint custody.
Jolie filed for divorce in a Los Angeles court September 19.
In the filing, she said she separated from her husband on September 15 – a day after the couple and son Maddox were involved in an alleged altercation on their private plane.
The actor was accused of physically attacking Maddox while drunk.
Child services in Los Angeles have launched an investigation into what happened.

The FBI has said it is gathering information before deciding whether to launch a federal probe into the allegations.
They interviewed Jolie for four hours after the alleged altercation, according to reports.
The actor has denied the claims.
Reports initially suggested that Pitt was seeking joint custody, and wanted to avoid a court battle.
A source recently told People that the pair were still trying to iron out differences during their acrimonious split.
'They are still working on issues that they can't agree on. It seems their issues still involve the kids,' the insider close to the family said.
'Brad and Angie haven't had any contact, and it's all being worked out via their teams,' said the family source recently. 'It's just a sad situation.'
Pitt and Jolie were together for 12 years after becoming close while filming 2005's 'Mr. & Mrs. Smith.'
When they weren't acting, the couple were seen as devoted parents and global philanthropists, creating a joint foundation in 2006.
Read more here

Tuesday, 11 October 2016

Happy 30th Aniversary Childline!

 

Having grown up watching Dame Esther Rantzen on That's Life I was delighted to meet her today, when we ended up blowing out candles on a cake we had sponsored for Childline who are celebrating 30 years of providing help, advice and support to children throughout Wales.

More than 50 people attended the event at the Senedd where the Minister for Social Services and Public Health Rebecca Evans was among those who joined Dame Esther in speaking to the audience.

Dame Esther spoke about her experience of setting up the service in 1986 and called on people to volunteer and help make a difference to children’s lives.

Dame Esther spoke about her experience of setting up the service in 1986 and called on people to volunteer and help make a difference to children’s lives.
Wales currently has 175 Childline volunteers across 2 bases in Cardiff and Prestatyn. Last year more than 7,600 children in Wales contacted the service seeking help, advice and support.




Wednesday, 28 September 2016

Love me Tinder – tales from the frontline of modern dating

As reported in The Guardian this week -
Blind dates and set-ups may be things of the past, but are the apps that have replaced them any
better?

Modern love is digitised. Letters and unrequited love have been replaced with modern iterations
(saucy pictures and ghosting). You do not go on blind dates, you go on dates with people whose
best photos you deem, at best, attractive and, at worst, passable. No one asks each other out in
person any more, probably.

There are merits and disadvantages to Tinder, Happn, Grindr, Bumble and the rest. They dismantle
the high stakes normally associated with the terror of asking someone out, but in doing so they
also cheapen the act. Post-Tinder, love feels disposable; people become something to consume.
This is what love online looks like.

‘I asked the first guy out after exchanging three sentences’
Libby, 27, customer services assistant

In January this year I downloaded Tinder, Bumble and Happn. It seemed like the only option to
meet someone these days if you don’t work with, or hang out with, men.

I asked the first guy out after exchanging approximately three sentences on Tinder. He announced
he was emigrating the moment we met. I realised we were mismatched after approximately three
minutes, anyway. He now lives in New York; I stayed in the country.
One evening I got chatting to someone: skip forward three hours and I had agreed to meet him in
central London. I stumbled up the stairs at Oxford Circus, spotted his bad shoes and realised
that I just wasn’t Samantha from Sex and the City. I promptly ran across the road and down
another entrance, and texted him to say: “I’m so sorry something has come up, I can’t make it
tonight.” He sent me a lovely response that it was totally OK and we should go for a drink
another night.

We did. He had just been diagnosed with ADHD and they were experimenting with his medication,
which tended to wear off at the end of the day, so he didn’t like to sit still for too long.

But I really liked how weird he was and was totally thrilled when he texted me the next morning:
“That was fun, we should do it again some time.” We did; three days later he hadn’t texted me. A
week later, I was drunk and I sent him a meme of Celine Dion letting go of Leonardo DiCaprio in
Titanic whispering, “Jack, I’ll never let go, Jack” because his name was Jack and I thought I
was hilarious.

The worst part of online dating is the first awkward face-to-face hello. Your preconception of
the person you have been speaking to is always very oddly different to whoever it is you meet.
And I also seem to make my mind up very quickly on how the night will go.
I once heard a story about a man who turns up to dates early and buys himself a drink, so that
when the girl arrives, he can send her up to the bar to get a drink and do a runner if he thinks
they aren’t up to his exacting standards. That’s almost a reason to give up.

One evening, I started speaking to a man – really interesting, engaging, all very effortless –
and after three hours of constant messaging, we arranged a drink for the next day. He asked for
my number – taking messaging off Tinder is a big deal – and then texted at 5pm to ask me where
we should go. I texted back suggesting a bar, washed my hair and never heard back from him.
For the full story click here.

Call me old fashioned but it would seem even Bridget Jones chose "the boy next door" eventually....or did she?