Tuesday, 12 September 2017

The rules parents don’t expect to make

I noticed an amusing article on the Marilyn Stowe recent blog.
Raising a child can be one of the most rewarding experiences of a person’s life, but it never comes without challenges. Parents must act as protectors, advocates and guides for the children while they are young – and many continue to do so even after their kids have become adults in their own right.
Rules are important in childhood. They help shape a child’s perspective and how they will interact with the wider world. Some are pretty universal, such as “be polite”.
However life is unpredictable. Sometimes parents end up creating household rules that they never could have imagined when their child first arrived. Parents on social media site Reddit discussed the quirky and unexpected rules they have found themselves enforcing.
These included “No dark arts in the house”. This particularly odd rule was drawn up after the parent’s children were playing Harry Potter, or “running around waving wands at each other”, and a loud argument ensued after one child put a curse on the other. While this response may sound sensible, one commenter jokingly added that “kids need to explore the dark arts as a means of coming to terms with the existence of evil”.
Another user had to institute a “No haunting the neighbours” rule after their daughter was caught whispering things like “You have dishonored your ancestors” into the vents of their apartment building. Apparently one of their elderly neighbours actually thought he could hear a ghost.
However most were a little less supernatural in nature. One parent has had to implement a “No headbutting at the dinner table” rule for one of their children. The siblings were seven and three years old and while the oldest was described as “so gentle and timid” the youngest was “an absolute psycho with zero fear”. You can probably guess which one the rule was created for.
Another rule came from a parent whose family all support different teams: “If your sports team loses and you are upset, go to your room until you calm down”. Others offered in the conversation included “Don’t write on your siblings”, “No cats in the laundry shoot” (even if “they like it”), “No banana fights” and “No crayons in the butter”.
One of the more bizarre ones, however, was “No machetes on the trampoline”. It would be quite easy to dismiss this one as a joke but, considering some of the others, there’s a chance a household somewhere in the world has this rule in place.

Lack of sleep ‘harms relationships’

Couples are more likely to argue in a hostile manner if they get less sleep, according to a new study.
Researchers from Ohio State University examined the sleeping patterns and relationships of 43 couples. They found that if both members of a couple get less than seven hours of sleep per night, their arguments tend to get worse. However, if just one of them does get enough sleep they will still argue but the negativity and aggression in these conflicts is significantly lower than their lest rested peers.
Participants in the study had all been married between three and 27 years. They were each asked about how much sleep they got and the answers ranged from three and half hours to nine hours per night. They were then asked to discuss the issues that caused the most conflict in their relationships. These conversations were recorded and analysed to determine how positive or negative the interactions were based on established scoring techniques.
Co-author and relationship scientist Janice Kiecolt-Glaser explained that a lack of sleep was “a little like looking at the world through dark glasses”. People in that situation have poorer moods, are generally “grumpier” which leads to a more bitter, confrontational style of argument.
The researchers also tested the blood of each participant after their arguments. They discovered that those who had less sleep had higher levels of inflammatory proteins in their blood than those who slept well. So a lack of sleep can not only be harmful to a marriage, it also “makes relationship conflict harder on the body” Kiecolt-Glaser said.
The study was published in the academic journal Psychoneuroendocrinology.
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Monday, 4 September 2017

Wayne Rooney could face losing half of his £80million fortune - because of a £4 brake light bulb

Shamed Wayne Rooney could end up parting with half of his £80million fortune - because of a brake light bulb costing less than £5.

The Everton striker was pulled over by police while allegedly driving party girl Laura Simpson home because officers spotted the car had a broken bulb.

The 31-year-old footballer was charged with drink-driving after police found him to be over the prescribed limit when he was breathalysed at 2am on Friday.

But had it not been for the minor traffic violation, officers in Cheshire may not have stopped Laura's convertible VW Beetle near to the Symposium bar in Wilmslow.

Humiliated wife Coleen flew home from her holiday in Majorca following her husband's arrest.

The pregnant 31-year-old confronted Rooney and Laura before fleeing to her mum and dad's.

Coleen’s decision to stay with parents Colette and Tony has sparked fears she may want a divorce – a move that could cost the £200,000-a-week star up to £100million in settlements, based on his past and future earnings.

.Should Coleen, who is expecting the couple's fourth child, decide to end their marriage, lawyers would look to split Wayne's wealth 50/50 as a starting point.

A set of two replacement brake light bulbs to fit Laura's 10-year-old motor are sold at Halford's for just £4.

Coleen is said to be in turmoil over ­conflicting reports of husband Wayne’s boozy car trip with 29-year-old Laura.

Roo apologised to his wife of nine years as he fought to save their marriage during crisis talks on Friday night at their £6million home in ­Prestbury, Cheshire.

But she left grim-faced on Saturday, with mum Colette by her side, and has since been staying at her parents’ house on Merseyside.

Wayne is said to fear his marriage is over following his latest betrayal .

Coleen is said to have phoned estate agent Laura to hear her version of events in the lead-up to Roo being arrested for drink driving in her car after a night out.

A friend of Coleen’s claimed Rooney's mates are ribbing him about the alleged ogling in Laura’s VW Beetle

The pal added: “Wayne’s mates are now calling him Herbie the Love.

“It’s hilarious. He’s now being likened to something out of a Walt Disney film because of the girl’s Beetle he was driving. At the moment Wayne thinks it’s funny but he might not do when the crowd at Everton start chanting ‘Herbie’ instead of ‘Rooney’.”

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Tuesday, 18 July 2017

When my boyfriend proposed, I said 'oh no!'

A recent article by Rosie Nixon in The Telegraph caught my eye, as I'm sure, many of us can relate to. It reads
It was a moment I had never dared to imagine - my boyfriend getting down on one knee. It happened in a stunningly picturesque spot in China , seven years ago, and I can still see it vividly. I had no idea it was  coming - I didn't even twig when he upgraded us to a beautiful boutique hotel the night before. Without realising I was talking out loud, I muttered the words, "Oh no." Why wasn't I gripped by the kind of elation this moment is meant to inspire, like it does in the films?
Undeterred, he pressed on, uttering those four words - words so little yet enormous "Will you marry me?" They hung in the air. "Can I think about it?" I said finally; it was probably only seconds later, but it felt as though half of my life had whizzed before my eyes. My words sounded pathetic, but I didn't know what else to say.
Callum and I first met outside a London pub on Valentine's Day the year before. He made me laugh and had a mischievous twinkle in his eye. I left the pub, but halfway down the street, goaded by my best friend, I dashed back, my phone number scribbled on a scrap of paper, which I thrust into his hand.
At 33, I had no dreams of getting married, I was too busy having fun and hanging out with my circle of single girlfriends. Dates were plentiful and life was one big party followed by a hangover. Callum had other ideas. On our first date we met at the Royal Festival Hall and it felt as though I had known him forever. We moved in together after six months and then, almost a year after we met, he proposed.
Looking back, Callum's reaction to my rebuff won him his bride. "Of course you can think about it," he said, confident as anything. "I just want you to know I'm in it for the long haul." And then the clincher:"But we never have to get married, if you don't want to." Immediately the pressure was off. And that, as any contrary woman knows, tends to make you want something. Badly.
We spent the next few days in Hong Kong. Never again did we mention the Asian elephant in the room.
But I couldn't help watching him with a renewed love: my boyfriend, this man who wants to marry me. But doesn't mind if we don't.
Gradually, the idea began to sink in. I asked myself a multitude of questions: what are you scared of? I was head-over-heals with this guy. He was perfect husband and father material. And I'd picked him out to begin with! Then the most alarming question hit me like a breeze block: what if he doesn't want to marry you now? A fire was beginning to burn. On the third morning post-proposal, I woke up knowing that today was the day I would ask Callum to marry me. The setting had to be perfect. It turned out that it was the anniversary of his mother's death, so we had planned to treat ourselves to a posh lunch at a beach restaurant on the island of Lantau. We got the perfect table, our feet in the sand. we ordered champagne and once our glasses were charged, we toasted his mother and then I asked if we could toast something else. "You asked me a question a few days ago," I said," and I haven't stopped thinking about it since - and, well, if you'd still like to marry me, then I'd love to marry you." We both burst into tears. It felt absolutely right - just like in the films.

 cinto tears. It felt absolutely right – just like in films.

Tuesday, 27 June 2017

Is marriage making men gain weight?

A recent article by Alicia Hrustic in Men's Health magazine comments on research by The
University of Bath, They examined data from 8,729 heterosexual couples who were asked to supply such information as their marital status, body mass index (BMI) and if they had had children. Information was gathered every two years between 1999 and 2013.
On average, married men had higher BMIs than those who were unmarried. They also weighed around 1.4 kilograms, or three pounds, more. Additionally, men were more likely to gain weight after they had become fathers.
The researchers also identified BMI dips for men just before and shortly after they divorced.
Study co-author Dr Joanna Syrda said that if people wanted to make informed choices about their health it was “useful … to understand which social factors may influence weight gain, especially common ones such as marriage and parenthood”.
Married men who want to avoid weight gain will have to be “mindful of their own changing motivation, behavior, and eating habits” she added.
Earlier this year, academics at the University of Arizona found that married women were also more likely to gain weight than single women. This claim was based on an analysis of data collected from over 79,000 women between 50 and 79 years old.
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Monday, 19 June 2017

Californian couple celebrate 75th wedding anniversary

In these sad days of horrific news stories, I was delighted to hear of an elderly couple in California celebrated their 75th wedding anniversary this week.
Anne and John Whitman married on June 13 1942 at the height of World War Two. They are now 95 and 102 years old respectively.
The couple first met at a Halloween party in Manhattan the previous year, just five weeks before the Japanese bombing of Pearl Harbour propelled the United States into war. Anne recalls that she was not impressed and left the party early, saying John and his female friend were “so arrogant” and she was bored. But John was undeterred, claiming he knew the moment he met her that he wanted to marry Ann.
He wrote her letter asking her on a date and she reluctantly agreed. They enjoyed trips to the theater and local restaurants during their courtship.
Anne told The Signal:
“We found that we were compatible. We used to go out a lot.”
A lifetime later the couple have five children, seven grandchildren and 12 great-grandchildren.
Anne enjoys her role as the matriarch of her growing clan. She told the site:
“It’s great to have family. The secret of a good life is family.”
Neither are New York natives. Instead they come from neighboring states of New Jersey (Anne) and Pennsylvania (John). Later in their marriage the steadfast couple decided to leave the Big Apple and move to Las Vegas in pursuit of a drier climate, before continuing west and settling in California. They have lived in Santa Clarita near Los Angeles since 1965.
Their oldest child, Gerald, believes his parents’ marriage has lasted so long because they have a relaxed approach to life and a willingness to forgive.
“They have had a really successful marriage and I attribute that to the fact that they don’t take each other really seriously. The thing is, they never go to bed angry. They always made up and they were always happy the next day.”
The elderly couple are also noted amongst their family for a lively sense of humour and a willingness to joke with each other even in their twilight years.
Both have remained as physically active as they can. John continued to enjoy bowling until the age of 98 and did not stop driving until he turned 101!
Congratulations both!

Friday, 19 May 2017

Peak fertility increases satisfaction with ‘manly’ husbands....

Women feel more satisfied with masculine husbands when they are at their most fertile.
Psychologist Andrea L. Meltzer made this claim following her study of 70 newly married couples.
Each relationship represented the first marriage for both spouses involved. She asked the
participants to fill out a questionnaire every evening for 14 days. Wives were asked how happy
they were with their marriage as well as their “conception risk”. This risk was highest when they were ovulating. Meanwhile, the husbands were given questions about what extent they behaved in typically “masculine” ways. They were asked how powerful, assertive or dominant they had been during the course of each day.
The purpose of this research was to test a hypothesis Meltzer held about relationships. She
explained that previous research has shown that “women demonstrate ovulatory shifts in their
mate preferences in the context of short-term relationships”. Basically, this means that when a
woman is at her most fertile, she is most likely to find men who display manly qualities more
attractive. Meltzer wondered if this would carry over to long-term committed relationships –
specifically marriage – as well.
She found that women whose husbands displayed “behavioral masculinity” reported higher
levels of overall happiness with their marriage at peak fertility. Meanwhile, wives whose spouse
did not exhibit such traits did not see any significant change in their satisfaction.
Meltzer explained there was one caveat to her finding. As her study involved newlyweds it was
“unclear whether the results generalize to other populations of long-term couples such as dating
couples or couples who have been married for longer periods of time”. She suggested another
potential issue was that the men reported on their own levels of masculinity. As these claims
“may be subject to self-report bias, future research should consider using more objective
measures of men’s masculinity.
Now you know!
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